Not to set you off on another tail spin ... but reading your sitch the red flag for me was how much he put on what you shared/what he discovered, in a way validating and getting himself off the hook for the A. I am not saying stalk his every move ... because A or no A ... you still need to DB this to the letter IMHO.
My advice for you .. A or no A , I know it matters but in the big picture it doesn't. If you detach, 180, GAL you will know soon enough where your H is.... but for now, get out of his head, stop wasting energy on what he is doing, what he is thinking, who he is talking to .... turn the H H H into you you you because YOU can start to control YOU, not H ... you can become stronger and grow if you look in the mirror and think "How can I be better today?" rather than look H's direction and get pissy when he is not doing what you would hope for .... hence NO EXPECTATIONS that you will see tossed around here often.
Hope, get out of the house, out of your H's head ... get out of your comfort zone and go do something fun ... tell no one ... just take some time and live a little this weekend ... roller skate down a hill ... heck do a cartwheel in the middle of a parking lot ... just something you do for a rush FOR YOU.
