Originally Posted By: CaliGuy

Truth is .. do I ever want to go through this again? NO ... could I stop it if she chose that path ... *shrug* only by doing my part and working constantly on the M, you know .. the one I made mistakes with the first time around. This epiphany lifted a weight off.


I think I need this epiphany. I can see how it would be helpful. I do see this logically in my situation... but to get to the point where I let go of my perceived control is a difficult step. I was never a jealous person before the A... but now I look at any new fb friends that H adds & question what the motives are behind that add. It is totally not who I have ever been ... and not who I want to be... but tells me I still need to heal from the A, I suppose.

I've read up on your last 3 threads & I am glad to read about all the progress you both have made. I admire your strength in going through such a tough and long journey!


T: 14 M: 12
D: 9 S: 6
BD: 2/18/15 (H affair)
Working on marriage: 3/12/15-6/11/15
Broken Trust (my error): 6/11/15
H ring off: 7/6/15; Comm w/ OW confirmed 7/13/15
H wants to work on fixing things: 7/21/15