Yeah, being stabbed in broad daylight in the eye is how it feels.
But the Sylvester image and Tweety Bird. OMG, it made me laugh and smile just thinking about that.
Science Project... report. W still refuses to say my name via communications nor use any salutations. It is like a ticker tape message ....be there at 5 to pick up kids...... bring over bathing suit.... It's like a robot recording. I am using her name and salutations in my communications most of the time. It has not elicited any reaction at all.
Ya know what ... you are triggering some memories for me here. When W would email me .. or leave a message on VM (ya know cuz I was GAL and not answering. She NORMALLY would say "Hey babe just letting you know I will XXXX" During the crisis She would be all formal "Hello Cali its "FIRST NAME" (and she pronounced it funny) ... not 'hey its me' ... nothing ... bugged me to bits.
Heavy .. just treat her like she was abducted on this .. its not really her, just her shell and she is in crisis and can not even think clearly at this point.
Originally Posted By: HeavyD
I know you said that it is not a true goal as it includes her reactions but I thought I would try it for fun. I now conclude that it is not working. Did you know that most clinical trials fail? Only about 2% actually make it to testing on humans. Interesting factoid.
Well , in the name of Science ... try something else, maybe go formal. Not sure if you can ... but like instead of calling her Jenny ... Use Jennifer or something along the lines that you never have before ... if that is not an option, fire with fire ... do not use her name what so ever. do it for a few weeks, most these take time, they notice right off the bat but spend time figuring out what is different and how to react.
Originally Posted By: HeavyD
Yeah, I realized she brings out the "it's fair" when she thinks it's fair to HER. What I think is 'fair: is irrelevant. LOL!
I truth darted this one, W sat me down and told me she wanted the D to be 'amicable' and I looked at her, pulled my best Google impersonation and said "Did you mean amicable as in you get what you want out of this? Because the true meaning of the word is Latin for 'friend' which we are not, and the definition is 'showing kindness and goodwill' which I have not seen to this point" (Yes I practiced that one in advance knowing it would come up)
Originally Posted By: HeavyD
Big Smile on face commencing - GAL activity for the weekend, movie and lunch with friend and breakfast and seeing two friends from our of town who contacted me. Cool. I have a lot of unpacking and laundry to do. Sheesh.
Question - is she acting like this alien as long as the AP is in picture or does that not correlate to anything. Just curious. I know that going to marriage counseling is futile while the AP is in the picture.
No, the AP is just a part of the outfit if you can visualize that. The WAS used the A to escape, and while high on the new drug all is good ... once the shine wears off they will start to look at themselves. My W is sharing bits here and there about this, she admitted as bad as the A was, it taught her that she played a huge role in the issues that she felt were the reasons to leave, she did not realize this at the time ... had to learn it.
The A takes time ... mine took 18 months .. on again and off again. Its not the A that is driving this .. the WAS has to start looking in the mirror, but during the A they are distracted by the new shiny lure .. give it time and that shine will fade.
