Need advice for a WW who left

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Thank you V. So I contacted attorney and confirmed that legally, I can keep WW out of the house. I'm the only one on the deed, and she left months ago and changed her mailing address. He said she may call the police but just to explain the situation and they would ask her to leave. I'm hoping it doesn't get that dramatic but prepared for anything.

Last I heard, she was driving back into town to talk with OM, so my guess is that they patch things up, at least temporarily. I'll know more in a few hours. I've decided I can't let her come back home, regardless of what happens today. She's not anywhere close to the right mindset, and it's not fair to me or the kids to have to deal with her drama. Her sister offered her a place to stay, and even though it's 2 hours away, that might be for the best right now. We can work out something on visitation with the kids. The rest she has to figure out on her own. I really wish things were different but I think the best way for me to help her and my family right now is to not help her. She needs to bottom out. Wish me luck.

I am glad that you have worked this through. I wanted to read this from you before seeing you receive 4x2s the reason for that is that your heart is open and broken and only you can decide having WW home is not the right thing for this dad and his kids. You can see that RD still has an open home for his WW and it's a very tough road but he is quite detached whereas at this time you aren't.. This decision is so important for you and the start of detachment for you.

This patch will be temporary I think between WW and OM. There has been a BD between them, the dreaded ILYB....... has been spoken. Those words can never be unspoken. They are a caustic that will burn through any patch, even a welded one.

For the moment you have time, precious wonderful healing time to breathe and recover. It is the gift of time as Cadet says. The longer WW is crazy with OM the more space you have for healing and becoming.

That peace may be disturbed by WW in due course I think, even if it is not immediate best to be prepared for it.

You are doing well.

V