In april confronted h about ow. He opened up and said he hasnt been happy for awhile. We have lots of stress in our fam sit work etc, I too in hind site have not been happy but didnt want a seperation or divorce but wanted things to be different as well.
We never fight becausec we dont talk. Another realization. We lived 3 months talking about everything and had great sex in that time great conversations and the stress was reduced between us. It got to the point that I was saying he needed to leave in order to figure some things out. I want him home but I want more from our relationship than he is willing to give. He is seeing ow on occassions and talks or txts maybe daily? Hes been out of house 2 1/2 weeks and ive seen him more than she has thank god.. and we are still having great sex.
This is where im confused because im not sure if I should continue this behavior. There was not enough sex and intimacy prior to the bomb but I wanted to do things differently than before. I am trying to give space between us this week as im reading that maybe thats what I should be doing rather than persuing and being available. Its been hard but ive been 3.5 days no contact. I cant wait to get the 2 books db and dr that are on the way. I am reading many success stories and pray we may be able to get back on track.
Thank you everyone for sharing.
Last edited by Cadet; 07/24/1503:24 AM. Reason: Carriage returns for readability
Married 1991 D 32 GD 12 D 30 GD 3 S 29 M 58 S 57 1st bomb 2008 2nd bomb 4/2015 same person New bomb 09/24 I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
