Wow, Pink that's really heavy stuff. It seems like your H is in a very bad place emotionally. I'm so sorry you're having to interact and take your S's to such a person. You may have love in your heart for him, but I would imagine being around him is contributing to your feelings of craziness.
What can you do to try to ground and center yourself? Can you reach out to anyone else in your life? Meditation? Fitness?
That's a whole bunch to deal with. My heart goes out to you.
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