Updating...things are getting much worse and I am kind o lost of what to do.
On 7/21 was my EH's B-Day and I finally decided to send a TM whishing him a Happy B-Day!. Simple, fast.
No word from XH all day. When I got home I asked the boys if they had anything planned with their dad. S15 said that he text him and he answer saying that wouldn't force anyone to be with him on his birthday. Odd!
I start saying to S15 that they could go somewhere and meet their father for dinner or something. At this moment my MIL called crying her lungs out, asking me to help her and get together with EX for his B-Day or at least take the boys to celebrate with him.
She said that XH was very depressed, that she was really worry about him and that she felt he was extremely unhappy. I told her many things that have been happening and she said that she did not know many things.
The boys did not want to go, but I told them to get ready and that was the end of conversation. Once we get to XH's place, I knocked the door and XH opened the door. It seems he saw a ghost. I told him that the boys were in a car and that we were there to take him out for dinner to celebrate his birthday.
H did not say a word, he cried hard, the way I actually never saw before. I told him he did not need to go out and he said he wanted. We all got inside my car and went to a pub that closes very late.
Many times during dinner H would say something and then tears were rolling. You actually feel sorry for him.
He told us that the night before he got locked out of the house and end up sleeping in his car.
When we were walking back to the car he said that it was really nice to do this for him. He said that he felt better that I was there. I said that I wish I didn't need to be there because there is a reason he wants a divorce.
Then XH starting saying how he feels that if he would die that it would all end. That he is very, very lost and can't manage o make things right. That he wishes he can open a hole in the ground and get himself inside there forever.
I told him that as a man of faith he would be the last to say that on his B-Day. XH said that everyone would be better off without him, that he feels he needs to go and that he has been contemplating death and it fits his purposes.
I drove him back to his place and for a change he said "I love you very much Pink", with tears in his eyes.
The next day I called his stepmother and told about his talk about death and so I called his real mom and told her too.
It's crazy, XH looks like he is dead already. He is so, so unhappy it is scary. His mom said that she never tough about seeing him so unhappy.
I don't get it. He is getting worse all the time. I am not sure if he is really talking serious and I am not sure if he is just saying it to manipulate the situation and make us feel sorry for them.
IDK, it is hard, and it is very sad. H has everything to be happy and yet he is the saddest person in the world right now.
IK+DK what to do. I am thinking to ask him for some a meeting and try to convince him to get some professional help. If he agrees then good, if he doesn't then I will call his family again and say that they need to step up big time.
When is this going to end? Why is him so unhappy. His life is a mess and it seems that every day he gets worse. I am tired, very tired of all this. There is so much at play right now. Custody, we have a date to get in front of the judge to decide our final D. H is very unbalanced right now... what about driving my kids around?
If you guys have any advice, it is appreciate. I don't even know what is DB or not. I am starting believe that MLC is a real thing that happen to people.
