Jedi - thank you for your comment, it really helped, there is no doubt in my mind that I want to save my M, my perception of the overall tone of this BB felt as if it was dragging me away from that and it felt uncomfortable.
Sandi2, Fogg, Joe46 & Cadet - what you say makes total sense, I wasn't looking for a guarantee, that is plain silly, I simply subscribe to the ethos that if you surround yourself with people who are looking to achieve what you are, then you have a much greater chance of that happening. The perceived "overly easy acceptance of D" I was bringing up was because the number who seem to subscribe to this was slightly overwhelming and not the 50-50 split that is seemingly the reality of whether a divorce happens or not. From what you are saying the best approach is to wear "blinders" (I think that's what they are called in the U.S. us Limey's call them blinkers) when reading certain threads and familiarise myself more with who is in which camp and pay more attention to their posts.
One thing is for certain and that is I now understand the DB'ing is about working on yourself and the results will be good for you regardless of the outcome of which 50% your M ends up in.
Thanks again everyone.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
