Thank you for that V. Today I followed up with an agency that hired me right around the time I got the teaching position. I never followed through with the paper work because I had no time. And I was afraid it was too late but I figured I'd give it a shot. I am taking two professional development courses they offer. Being between addresses is making things complicated but my goal is to be ready to go by September so I can hold off on some of the paperwork until I'm settled.
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Things are moving along. I took a professional development course yesterday offered by the agency that I was hired by back in October. I also submitted some of the paperwork they needed to complete the hiring process. I still have more papers to complete but being in between address makes it tricky. I am hoping to have everything in within the next few weeks and then I should be able to start picking up some jobs. There is some additional training and certificates I need to do early intervention--which seems to be the majority of their case load, and a required course that they don't offer until September, so I might just have to continue collecting unemployment until I can get that done.
I am taking another workshop next week, and then another in August. Taking the course started to renew my confidence and remind me of what I enjoy doing and do well. And I was finally approved for unemployment so I should start receiving payments within a few days. That was a longer wait then I expected and I was getting really nervous. I'm relieved to know it is coming.
H surprised me by asking me if I wanted to take the dog when I picked up the kids yesterday. So I have my girl with me. He was unclear about when/if I should be returning her so I plan to hold on to her as long as I can--checking with L for that.
I am moving into my new place next Friday. I am so excited. I picked up a coffee table and two end tables from a thrift shop. It is beautiful Roman Marble top and mahogony base. Not really something I would have purchased for myself but better quality than anything I could afford and only $125 for the whole set. They are beautiful pieces, a little dinged and scratched but perfect for my current needs.
I'm trying to find out if I will be allowed to go back into our place to get some more things. I want my crock-pot and keurig, two things H never uses. I have some dishes and silverware that were my grandmothers and being stored in my mother's garage, so I'm not worried about that. I just need some of my appliances. I also want my bedroom set and all of my grandmother's furniture from our place--including the dining room table. Might have to wait until our court date for that stuff.
Today I am feeling a little sad. A little heart broken. I was watching some old home videos with my mother and aunt earlier in the week and some of them was from when my kids were babies. H was so sweet and funny, and loving. What happened to him? At least it was a reminder that I didn't just rewrite history, things really were good once upon a time. I miss that man. The man he was then would have hated the man he turned into. Would have wanted to beat up the man he is today for the d-bag things he did.
Oh well. I am ready to move on. If things work out I could make a decent salary doing agency work. I still have to figure out health insurance and stuff, but I can make enough money. This is a new beginning.
My sister bought a surf board similar to the kind they use in lessons. They are easier than the fancy ones my BIL and niece use. So maybe if I have some time next week I will head back over to the beach and try it out on my own. Surfing really was the highlight of my summer right now. It is a good summer. I am feeling a lot of sorrow, but I know I will probably look back at this summer as being one of the best once I get passed the BS.
And V. It looks like you are really coming along with your clean up project. You are an amazingly strong woman! Thanks for your constant support.
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I am relieved things are moving ahead for you. just a thought would WH be prepared to put your stuff into storage, or perhaps let an independent person collect your stuff for you, you could FaceTime a kind friend whilst they collected stuff from your old home?
Looking forward to hearing you are in your new home. I recollect we had a poster here called Little whose mood change hugely when she moved into a new home. We even had a thread party!
Great news on the training, sounds very useful and is expanding your skills too. Msd, you supported me, I return the favour. I was very inspired the day you went to the city for your GAL, it changed my thinking. I can't recollect if I ever said thank you. I do now, thank you. At that point I knew Msd had chutzpah! And I borrowed some and went dancing.
V
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Maybe we could hAve a thread party when I move in next week. I won't have my internet up and running until the 3. But I will be in my place Friday. I can not wait!!
I have had so much I need to take care of. I am seeing now that there was a reason for my unemployment.
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I can't wait to let the mooooose out, although I guess I kind of did yesterday with my newest crazy GAL experience.
I've gotten into this routine being here at my parents, every tuesday I walk down into the village and have a drink at this restaurant/hotel that is on the harbor. I sit on the dock and sip my pina colada or mojito and watch the boats, and the ferry come in and out. I've been calling it my Tuesday table for one, because usually I will have lunch at a less expensive restaurant first, then head over for my expensive cocktail on the dock.
The first time I did this I told my dad and said, I was tempted to hop on the ferry, but the city on the other side is not much fun and not much to do. We live on the nice side of the journey--and usually only take it when we have a place to go up in New England. My dad told me that I could just get on and not get off, take a round trip. You only have to pay once, because they take your ticket as you exit. So after I finished my mojito yesterday I saw the ferry come in and decided, what the heck. I ended up riding it four times. LOL. Made friends with the bartender, who actually knows a lot of the same people I know--small town life. And I also met a woman who is in her 50s and does triatholons. Started doing them after her divorce. She inspired me to set a goal to train--although I am a weak swimmer. I met a man who also has kids in private school who helped me see the importance of putting aside my own feelings about the school situation because they have a great opportunity going to the school the go to. I met a bunch of regular commuters who made me want to get a job in CT so that I could travel that way every day. I used to love being a train commuter, but that ferry is 1000 times better!
I let a bunch of friends know I was doing it for safety reasons. And when I got back after the last trip one of my friends was at the dock side bar with her H for their anniversary and invited me to meet up with them. My bartender friend came with me and we had a nice night. I am going to miss living out here, even though I am glad to be getting into my own place. I don't want to get too dependent. My parents are away and I realized that it has been a while since I had to think about dinner. This has been a wonderful vacation, but it can't be my life. I have to go back to being an adult. And I guess that starts Friday when I move into my new home. But man, I wish I can live in this town. But as my one ferry friend pointed out, the kids' school really needs to be a priority and that means moving back to that town.
Mooooooooose!! I really like GALing!!!
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Wow, what an amazing ferry ride! That's something out of a movie Mustard.
What a gift to get that much perspective and understanding of just how big the world is. One thing I've come to realize in spades this year is just how tumultuous life is for most people - and if you sit and chat with them, how much real knowledge they'll share with you.
Lost a wife (at least for now), gained a perspective on humanity. Meh. Maybe an even trade.
PP
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Lost a wife (at least for now), gained a perspective on humanity. Meh. Maybe an even trade.
PP
What a great way to think about it. I spent 15 years not doing things I enjoyed doing because H didn't want to. And now I am learning, why do a need H or any man to be on board for me to do things I enjoy. I guess it was this expectation of having to do everything together. And I guess the reality was that when we both were doing the things we each enjoyed, very few of those things actually crossed-over. I guess that should have been a huge red flag.
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