I agree with all those before me....don't make anything a question. Tell her what works for you rather than asking her what works for you. Speaking from a woman's point of view, I want decisive and active, as most women do, not someone who looks to me for guidance. Sorry if that sounds harsh, dear NH, because you know I have to be super supportive of my fellow Arkie, but I was not sure how else to say it that didn't sound bad.

I think you are lucky to live where you do, in that places to live and roommate situations should be easier to come by. I wish you all the luck in the world moving forward. Do what is best for YOU and your daughters. smile


Me 52, H53
Bomb drop 9/29/2014
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
6 grandkids