NH, you may want to consider letting her know that given present circumstances, you're not interested in making long term travel plans.
I agree with Starsky x 2....
That was pretty much the response I had in mind. I was thinking more along the lines of "don't we have some big questions to settle before we plan any more trips?"
M issues aside, we're spinning our wheels financially as it is.
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NH- Forgive me for jumping in, as I don't believe I have commented on your threads before, but instead of phrasing it as a question ("don't we have some big questions to settle before we plan any more trips?"), wouldn't it be more powerful to say "That doesn't work for me right now". That would be telling her what is acceptable to you, rather than asking her.
The "Don't we have some big questions to settle" line is most definitely initiating a 'R' talk ... plus its applying pressure ... basically implying that you want a firm line in the sand commitment to the M in order to plan the trip. (This may be what you really want but SHE needs to give that gem up on her own with a "I'll do whatever it takes" line first.
I would opt for Raliced's line of "That doesn't work for me right now" as it comes from a place of strength and confidence.
