weird thing happened yesterday, I received an unexpected call late at night, I asked if everything was alright and she said yeah, she really just called to talk to me or check up on me, I guess either way is good.
Its not actually a 'good' thing .... she is temp checking you here. Mine was the queen of this and took me MONTHS to figure this out and take it for what it was .... the WAS wants you to be right where they left you as they go on about their new life .. when they start thinking about things they will temp check you to make sure you are still option #2 (I know it stings but this is typically what happens)
I received this advice, you can be kind but do not be to available for her, do not pursue ... if she still feels you are sitting on the porch waiting for her to come home there are no consequences for her actions and she will not change nor stop them. This is where the term Lovingly Detach comes into play ... you need to GAL and go on about your life for now as if she passed away. When there is contact .. PMA up and make sure you ALWAYS end the conversation as if you can not wait to get on about your day as its the most exciting thing going.
