Could this be a MLC?

[Sotto]

Haunted, I'm sorry to hear about what has been happening - but you are in good company here and will get some welcome support and advice.

Re, your text and your H's response. It is important to understand that when you push on things like this, your H will come back with an answer you don't want to hear. Have a look at the 37 rules and really think about them in terms of your own situation. It is worth reading and re-reading them. Some posters insert the name of their S to really make it go in.

If divorce isn't what you want, please don't go ahead and file. You can choose to apply the 'believe nothing they say' rule in this instance and keep moving forward. Extensive experience on this forum shows that spouses who once said they wanted a D, may change their minds at some point down the line. Don't lose hope.

The big thing to do is start shifting your focus off your H and onto YOU. Really start thinking about what you want from life going forward (whether or not your H chooses to participate.) Start moving towards this & reclaiming parts of yourself that may have become lost during your marriage. What did you enjoy that you let fall by the wayside?

Also, read some of the other sitches on this part of the forum. When you find ones that are similar to yours, you may want to post on them and benefit from the wisdom therein too. Above all, keep posting, keep your head above water, don't make drastic decisions and focus on you!

Good luck, Toots :-)