Cadet, What you've stated about the quotes or when a poster is addressed by their old ID by fellow posters is very true. Unless the members remember that names can be changed for any number of reasons and try to remember to reference the poster by the new ID, there will always be some slip ups along the way.
I also wanted to point out that I did a "google" search of my former ID here and guess what! A lot of the references w/my old ID showed up. With that in mind, I strongly urge posters to come up w/generic IDs that will be a bit difficult to figure out who you are just by doing a search of your ID. If you don't care if a spouse, former spouse or nosy friends, etc., read your postings, then use whatever ID you want.
Again, posters have to be careful as to what they are posting here and on other forums. Many of the online forums are not as secure/private as you think. Many of the postings on various internet forums are cut and pasted into other internet forums to show examples of situations, advice/suggestions given and how the situation shakes out. This is another reason to keep your postings as generic as possible. What you think will remain here, doesn't necessarily happen all of the time.
Please understand, I'm not trying to scare you into not posting, but you have to be careful and think about what you are posting before you do so.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
