Putting it all together

[Uphill]

I totally agree with that point. I can see how it would lead that direction. But it still takes lots of conscious thoughts, actions and decipt to get to the A. In my case there were underlying problems which I was unaware of for some time. Now I know those things were eating away at her but at the time I had no idea. Subtle hints went in noticed. I noticed her drifting a little but any time I would ask if something was wrong I got an answer of no. It is hard to fix the issues if you don't know about them. I guess what I am saying is if the A happens because they were pushed away, it still comes back to not only you but them not addressing the root of the problem. My sweeping it under the carpet they still are partially responsible for the problems that cannot be fixed without pointing them out.
I am in no way trying to place ALL blame there but it's hard to fix something when you think it is working just fine.