I agree Uphill but it does emphasise the build up to the A. Even without an A it is important to really try to see the real reasons and unmet needs of the spouse.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
