Anxiously waiting for it to fall apart

[dejavu2]

Had a lovely walk with a friend this AM where we were chatting about my future plans. I have been waffling with the family 3yr plan as I would really like H to be involved in the kids on a regular basis. However, without him having a solid job/location, I am unable to establish a life close to him.
So, I have been waiting for him to sort his life and then move the family. I had a moment of clarity - H has never been comfortable with establishing family roots. I have always planted the family flag and he has come/gone from it. I now need to make the best decisions for the children regarding home/schooling and then let him fit in around them.
As much as I want to move back to the USA, I am beginning to think it wouldn't be fair on the children as their foundation/culture is English. It can be tough to move when you are in HS. It can be tough to have dad/mom get divorced. I am not certain to give my children both burdens would be fair on them. I suspect H will continue to flit in/out of their life/my life.