I think you need to read the chapters after those about the 7 steps. Start with chapter ten (I think) about infidelity, the Last Resort Technique, MLC, depression, and other problems in the MR.
So sorry she has so much health problems. It can really take a toll on a family....and especially the MR. You may want to consider talking to a DB Coach about your specific problem.
I'm thinking that it is a good idea too.
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Has she ever had similar behavior in the past? Do you know why her first M ended?
There was another EA 6.5 years ago. Her first M ended with her H having multiple A's (which is why I thought she would nver be capable of doign that to me.
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So her illness does not interfere with her going out and drinking till 2 in the morning?
She pays for it, in fact she ended up passing out at the hotel during her girls weekend out, hit her face on the floor, really messed herself up. (trying to keep up with the heathly friends type thing)
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If she is a WW, then no, she couldn't wouldn't drive back to the hospital. Based on what you've said here, it doesn't sound good. If she went all the way to FL to see another man, then the EA has probably gone to a PA. Brace yourself.
I'm figuring it has, but right now i just feel hurt but not like wanting to yell at the world type of thing...just like ok...found a note she had written to herself on a doodle pad "i love guy from A" also found a receipt for a package sent 1.5 weeks ago to the guys town in FL.
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I don't believe anyone is capable of not thinking about their spouse being in an A. Maybe what you mean is not obsessing about it, which would be nearly impossible when first discovering it.
This woman is not the girl you M.
Have you read the threads on help for the newcomer LBH who has a WW? If not, I hope you will take the time to read it. I came here eight years ago as a wayward wife. I am still with my H and not only was my M saved, but so was I. Although my heart can feel for your W, I also know the dark side she may be going down. You will not recognize her. I'm so sorry. This board can help you as you make this journey. If it can help a WW like me, who wasn't wanting to stay in her M......it can certainly help someone who does.
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Do you mean the 37 rues thing? I have that printed and highlighted! I also read some of the links Cadet had posted. I still need to read the rest of DR but had no chance with her back from "DC"
Thanks a lot of the advice you have already helped me a lot from those rules!
