Thank you Toots for the excellent boundary. It really helps.

I certainly see the skewed perception. H wants apartment but also books us our own room/same bed on vacation. I am betting he will change that even though I don't think he was planning anything there.

Got a glimpse into the funhouse yesterday-pretty wonky place to visit-never mind live in.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced