Yes, agreed, look how much I have grown and learned will be the goal.
I have grown, I have learned a lot of lessons, I have realized how misguided I was at relationships I have learned that I had a very low opinion of myself.
Little by little I am getting me back. I am a good person, I am a good mother, I am capable, I can make it on my own, I do have people that love me, I do feel connected to God, I do feel good about MY CHOICES, I do have a great sense of humor.
I don't feel responsible for hers anymore, I don't want to walk on her path, I don't accept mistreatment, I don't accept others putting me down, I don't accept unethical behaviors, I won't live in an open marriage, I won't be sorry for the choices I make to protect myself and my kids. I don't have to apologize or defend my choices or core beliefs. That all feels really GOOD.
I really do feel stronger and more confident and I look better now too, it's an inner kind of looking better that I am sure comes from feeling better.
My W on the other hand does not look good, she looks tired, she looks sick, her hair looks over processed, she is very overweight. Her clothes are too young for her age. She looks aged and worn and not in only the physical sense but again it seems to come from inside. She just looks unwell.
It's basically replacing bad thoughts with positive thoughts, I was very very dark before and now the light is seeping in. The light is good - let there be light!
