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It is more the things like the holding of hands stroking of faces her feet on my legs when watching Tv having and giving hugs all the things that make one feel close and attached to another

I am missing this and would have though she would be too she used to like to snuggle and Hugg


No, you mean all the things that make YOU feel close. Notice in the quote that only one of these do not match. (Takes me back to the old Sesame Show.) Everything you mentioned that it takes to feel close (except one).....is physical touch. I'd dare say that's your primary love language. However, it may not be hers. If you've not read the book about Love Languages, do it. But please stay balanced when you read it. Most guys go way too far and start over killing right off the bat.

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Thank you it,was more about I had asked her last week before I fully realised I was pursuing so she was saying yes to me asking her out .....but I will,see what she wants to do I do not want to make poor excuses ....and if we do go out I will make sure I do not ask any R questions


I hope you have learned that it is pursuing. However.......you have set yourself up to look like a pure jerk if you start playing as if you have something else to do. Don't have your mom to call. I see all type of problems arising from that scenario. This one time, since you were the one who asked her, go out to dinner with her. No relationship talk, no questions to her, no talk of the future, etc. And.....no hand holding. You can show a great personality and that you know how to be fun. You can be a great conversationalist (without getting into no-no territory) . You do know, right?

From this point forward, do not trap yourself again.


Last edited by sandi2; 07/22/15 08:31 PM.
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