Oh I see. I let him made the decision and then I set the next boundary that works for me. Thanks Cali.
Yes
You will find, at the most strangest of issues they will look for you for guidance, as they struggle to make a decision for themselves let alone a rational one. My W has mentioned this as she emerges ever so slowly from the fog. Left me scratching my head, leaving me and the house she seemed to have help in this choice from OM and other 'new' friends .... but choices about trivial things like which rice to chose she would TM me about.
Detachment is key, I considered my W a science project for a bit to help me with this, watched/observed and tried not to get sucked in as she progressed through the various tunnels.
