Cali-if I say "that is a decision you will have to make on your own" and try to leave it at that, I think he will ask for further clarification. He asks for further info: "can I sleep here a few nights." Then I feel like I am back to square 1.

Thoughts?

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced