Thank you Toots, Cali and Deja. I need to cool off. I am just plain frustrated right now. I have to remember I am not dealing with a sane adult

I will re-read Toots' post and all others. I also need to look over boundaries.

He has been clear: he wants to come and go with my permission. If he can't he wants to stay in misery.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced