Wife moved out - Separated

[ILYNOT]

Hello, im starting this new thread since the old one had some personal info.

Been married 14yrs, have 2 kids, married civilly not through church, ILYBINILWY July 2014, D bomb 2014, moved out 05/15, at the time said we had nothing in common, I always angry, never appreciated her, says we got married because she got pregnant, says we are not "really" married cause its not through church, I drink too much.

Within the past year, I went to counseling, anger management, took several classes, stopped drinking, joined a gym. I tried asking her about counseling before and she didn't see it going anywhere since we went before and didn't do much for us.

Fast forward, she has her own place, I kept the house, she says she is more at peace, calmer. Sees some of my changes, doesn't ask personal questions or interested in my life, doesn't like me asking personal says we are not together and doesn't have to tell me anything, I'm still in contact with kids exchanges. She goes out Saturday nights, something she never did in 14years, she has friends she sees and talks to also something she never had or did, shes very secretive and guarded.

Me, I need to learn to detach; took her out to dinner this week for her bday, she kept checking out dudes in front of me, shes always had wondering eyes, I didn't say anything but its very uncomfortable, I feel like a "friend" and I don't want to be her friend I want to be her husband, we are separated, not legally, hasn't filed for D, I pray everyday, I'm GAL.

She moved out beginning of summer so the kids are happy to have 2 places, hasn't hit them yet, waiting until they go back to school then it will hit everyone of us.

She's drowning herself in debt, which is soon going to affect me soon since I'm on her CC its an individual but added me.
She's looking for a better job since the one she is in is far from where she lives and is unhappy since she begin working there. I think she is going through depression but I cant tell her that.

I'm hurting inside each and every day, some more than others but everyday I hurt so I try and stay busy, hurts to not know what she is doing, whom she is talking to, etc.

She has distanced her self so much in the past few months, stopped communication, texts, good mornings, good nights, etc.