If you read Toots carefully ... you will see that you desperately need to start placing some boundaries. These are not out of punishment ie. "If you get an apartment you are making a choice and I will no longer allow you in my home" but more along the lines of "I respect your need to have space and the urge to have your own place, that is YOUR choice to make not mine" After he does decide ... then you can start making boundaries on what you will and will not tolerate as Toots mentioned
