Went to supper with my new friend - had a great time at a new restaurant too which broadened my horizon as part of my "me" life. Going to the same old restaurants was depressing as you can imagine.
Went to IC counselor and moved it to ever other week. I am feeling a lot better and don't want to meet every week. She agreed.
She also agreed that we should split kids on holiday's, she said that sounded reasonable and lot of her divorced families do it that way. So I don't feel like a complete jerk.
She said I look better, sound better and have a more focused outlook. It was nice to hear it validated by an outside party but you know what, I already knew that.
I AM better, more composed, happier I dare say it just doing my thing and chortling along. I am still working on being more and more detached and trying to not care about what her reactions are to what I may be doing. I am doing what is best for me and what is best for my kids. Period.