I see your point. But I don't know if it is my place to "let him." He wants me to choose! It's INSANE. He wants a scapegoat for his cake eating!
He doesn't just want an apt. He wants an apt. AND he wants to come and go from our house.
He will not be coming and going as he pleases. I do not want to pretend we're the Waltons. He has no respect for me or these kids. He has no sense of boundaries or consequences to decisions.
He should see what separated life is really like. He should see what it does to the kids. We can't all function in his la la land world.
He wants to be a college kid who crashes at home for comfort, a warm meal and no responsibilities. Then heads off to the fun life.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
