Matt, I agree with Sandi that if you have found the forum helpful, carry on using it (or another marital support forum if you prefer.)

It is important to be circumspect when we are online, and I'm sure none of us would want to hurt our spouses by posting details about our marriage. If you change sufficient details about yourself that no-one could recognise you or your family - ages, location etc..you are essentially posting hypothetical questions, which I think is fine..

I can appreciate how you feel, but I also hope that your W, when she really thinks about things, will see that there are worse 'betrayals' than posting on a marital support forum at a tough time in your life, to try and save a marriage in crisis.

Take care, T :-)

Last edited by Toots; 07/22/15 05:33 PM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus