Matt, I did reply to your last post to me, and I thought I sent it. I can't find it, so I must have hit the wrong key somewhere. Your threads go so fast! You have a lot of people who care about your stitch. People know a good guy when they see one, ya know?
I am not going to repeat what I thought I had already sent, except to say you may want to consider changing your name on the board, to something nobody could match with you. We want you to stick around, okay?
I feel totally useless in helping a LBS in the place you experience today. I will tell you, however, that I have seen others in the same spot who later R with their EX. The LBS would have to move on, first, and drop their emotional rope......and finally(sometimes a couple of years, maybe more) things would start to change with the EX and they R.
I hope you will stop following her on FB, and stop focusing on her all the time. You are on the boards so much it must not leave a whole lot of time for getting out and GAL, but maybe you are more than I realize. I hope you will make an effort to throw yourself into more GAL, and building a life without her......instead of around her.
One final word about her finding your posts. Her intent was to use this to inflict pain. Your intent was to save the M by getting help. Continuing to beat yourself up is enabling her mission. I don't think you should feel badly. The WW will do most anything to take the smallest thing and turn it around to guilt the betrayed spouse. Guilt is a card the WW uses every chance she gets, and the worse the LBS feels.....the more she'll lay it on.
If Mrs. Matt reads this post, she has a personal invitation to come on board and talk with me.
(((hugs)))
Last edited by sandi2; 07/22/1505:00 PM.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
