I posted this on your old thread (which is about to lock)...

HaWho - You talk about the fog you were in when you were depressed. It seems like he is in his own version of fog. Let him get an apartment with the agreement that the children can spend time with him there.

Interesting my H seems to suffer from family anxiety also and needs his time to "decompress". He gets stressed if the children are bickering too much, things break, he doesn't know where to drop/pick up one of the children.

I agree --- I cannot believe this has become my life. We are married to teenagers!! I thought this was all behind me when we got married. Stay strong.

H: 48 Me: 47
Married: 19 yrs T: 20 yrs
2 teen-Ds and S
H-MLC (started 2012) and H-Unemployed (11/2014)
D-Bomb: 2/2015
H left country but hasn't moved out: 7/2015
I filed: 7/2015