Be strong, you did whatever you felt was necessary to protect yourself and to try and save your family and your Wife. That is honorable and good.
My W is mad that I talked to her family in the beginning about what was going on. I told her I would have talked to the Devil himself to try and get insight into what was happening.
You did what you felt was best to save your marriage. There is no shame in that. You have helped so many on this board, myself included.
Good speed Matt.
Why not change your username and keep posting as you have so many people here who care about you and want to continue to stay in your online life. Just a suggestion.
