I don't see where Defacto has been serving up any cake for a long time now, so I don't think he has to worry about his wife trying to cake-eat. She's in partial PURSUIT mode, so that is good, and he's successfully flipped the power dynamic. It's now up to him to decide which pursuit offers to accept, and which to be too busy/mysterious for, and as long as he maintains his core boundaries through that process he should be fine.
