Two months ago we seemed slightly better. There was more texting and more physical contact. I understand the logic of initiating physical contact can be viewed as pursuing by W. And if she wants out that could push her.
I am contemplating reinitiating low key non sexual type physical contact. Part of me wants to wait for W to initiate. That may well be the DB way. Eight months ago when u really started trying to save marriage I reintroduced thus as it was lacking in our R. So regardless of how I felt or other factors there was this contact. Although rarely initiated by W it was never refused and readily accepted. I'd appreciate yer wisdom and thoughts on this. I guess I see thus as putting positive energy in without expecting a return.
I am just trying to figure out what I was doing in April that I not doing now. The texting I liked our exchanges but as we talk each evening I prefer to leave her initiate that mostly.
Being tired I may have been less upbeat recently so I am focusing on that. My short term priorities are fun with boys, better dad, finish some more projects around house, figure out a happiness plan and to improve sleep.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together