Basically Dwh like a neighbour you like. So if you would say "great weather, how are you" or " I was sad to hear about your car being stolen, has it been found?" or "how are your gallstones, I heard you were in hospital" . Admin on things other than your children. Immediate attention and care with co parenting. L on fins (financial matters) as there is often more heat than light on that.
Soft warm friendly tone, interested but no more. Smile, stand confident and leave the conversation first.
In my own case I have complete NC and have no intention of treating my WH in any friendly way, he is an abuser so it's not appropriate. No more R so talk through my L, am telling you this because I want to show the contrast. Warmth to indifference, note that I am not being hostile, just business like, like a grey breeze block. In your case you are paving the way home without chasing or perusing. A stance of standing for your M but not running around in circles.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 07/22/1508:58 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
