Not a parent here - but wanted to pop out of the wood work on this discussion. You both live close together, right? Could talk agree to both have them on the holidays (providing that you don't travel)?
Coming from my own personal experience: my parents lived a seven hour drive apart. When I was younger age 1-3ish, my mom sucked it up and took me to my father's parents house, and spent time with them. Age 4-6 they swapped Christmases, and then from 6 on, they split it as: thanksgiving with my mom and her family. Christmas Eve and Christmas Day with my mom. Day after Christmas - New Year's Day with my dad and his parents.
Several of my friends with divorced parents do something similar, especially if parents live close together. Thanksgiving: lunch/dinner with one parent, desert with another. Christmas Eve with one parent, Cheistmas Day with another. Perhaps tall could Compromise and say, on odd years, heavy would get the kids on Christmas Eve night and Christmas morning, WW could get them Christmas afternoon and day after?
You've been doing great Heavy - don't let this get you down.
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15
