seperated 4 months, its now 9 months, oh and om

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Hi prowl,

I have followed your sitch, and have felt the same intense pain that you have, there were days i didn't think i would make it. I came to realize the pain was not about losing my w as it was as much about all the pain I caused my family, myself included.

I disagree with your assesment of yourself, you have admitted to the problems you have, the abusive behavior and that takes a strong person. Most people never come to that point and wind up in another bad marriage, second marriages are more likely to fail for that reason.

I dont remember reading if you are in IC, but it has helped me tremendously. Read as much as you can, you will find out there are a lot of people just like us, and if you do the work things will improve for you, just be patient and kind to yourself.

The om thing is tough, but the less energy you put into thinking about it, the better chance of it failing sooner. Put that energy into working on yourself and loving your children, and things will improve.