Abuse is very tough for adults, let alone for children. Frankly, I want to just wrap the young version of Help with great care and go punch the abusers, I have specific unpleasant thoughts about it........
It's what dear Wonka calls FOO (family of origin issues).
How does your low self esteem show itself, is it the same pattern every time?
Are there specific triggers for you with W.
You can tell me if you need privacy on this, it's OK.
Healing those issues and childhood trauma is one of the most important things you can do for you. Frankly I am not surprised about the control issue considering the issues you mentioned. However I do think your W lack of boundaries is her issue to deal, just as my lack of boundaries was mine. Dealing with soft boundaries makes having a rough and tumble resilient R is very difficult. How can you know when things aren't right if there are no boundaries?
Just let W responses go..... 'Whatever'. Crumbs or not, you don't have to nibble.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
