And in the meantime - I'm pretty content to focus on me - and my plate is pretty full with primary custody, getting a graduate degree, trying to launch a small business, and after Dad's death- caring more frequently for my elderly mother.
Small business? Wow. On top of the rest? I'm impressed.
Originally Posted By: raliced
All that being said- I would like it very much if OW went away - I could deal with another girlfriend much more easily. The idea of having this woman who encouraged and helped expedite the break up of my family being shoehorned into my life is distasteful.
Interesting. I've never really thought of OM that way. I believe he played a role too in my W's decision to leave. I see him as a given. In fact, I don't like the idea of my WW being single again, on the market and dating. Anyway, just sharing my interest in your perspective.
Originally Posted By: raliced
it seems like living apart (even part time) would add some stressors to their relationship.
Actually, and just because I always say it when the opposite (moving in) occurs, I will say that seeing each other part time is actually a good thing for a relationship. Living together brings up a whole set of issues, in part because we can't hide the boring stuff (bad moods, cleaning, fixing, filing) from our partner and because what is rare is more valuable. Let's try not to read too much into it, but to me it's rather the addition of a new home in their life that seems like a bad sign of how things are going between them, like they need a little distance. End of speculation.
Originally Posted By: raliced
I confess I also had some anxiety that he might try to alter our custody agreement based on his new living arrangement. I'd be fine with a few more nights a week - but I'm pretty happy with our current arrangement
I understand your stress in face of this uncertainty. Depending on what you want, I'd say that 50/50 is the least you can hope for, so consider anything better that you get (whether it's less or more) as a gift in the meantime.
As for the black belt, I won't challenge you to a process improvement fight because I've never had any kind of training in the field! [bow]
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