I finally had a little time to stop in and catch up on your sitch and just say hi and thanks for commenting on mine. In some ways, you seem very much like me and I see a lot of similarities.
While you have some vets commenting who are FAR more knowledgeable and helpful than I, one thing I can tell you for sure is that counseling has been invaluable for me. I would have loved to get my XH to go with me, but he was too interested in just getting out, but I did take the time to do it for me and it was the best decision I have ever made. The first few sessions, I could do nothing but cry my way through, but now, I am stronger, more confident.
One thing I read all the time on here is how things will get better with time and for me, that has proven to be entirely true. Our D was final in mid-December and XH moved and started a life with a new person in early Feb. While he focuses on someone else, I have focused on me and that has made all the difference for me.
Hang in there, Diana. I am living proof that it DOES get better and I hope the very same for you, lady.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
