I am struggling with understanding detatchment. It is so easy to remain detatched from my family but for whatever reason I am stuck in this and having such a hard time at it. I have read and re read the thread on it. Maybe I just need to find other resources too with information. I think finding it in myself to forgive him fully will help. You know I had this interesting epiphany about a year ago. I had talked to MIL about forgivness and how I had never forgiven him for A's back in HS and 10 years ago. I was driving to work and the thought just litterally popped in my head. I forgave the man who sexually assaulted me for a few years with no problem I still see him around and we talk and he has even hugged me without me feeling anything really yet I could not forgive the man who unconditionally loves me and is always there to pick up the pieces. It seemed so silly. I decided at that moment I forgave the past. I swear I became 100 pounds lighter that day. but I for some reason struggle to forgive him now and let that weight go. It is so crazy to me. I think the lack of forgiveness is holding me back in some ways. I guess more food for thought! Thanks painter! I will keep looking into detatchment.
