You know, NH, you really have grown. And, that sounds so stinking condescending, but I hope you take that as the compliment it was intended. You seem to be on the outside how I feel on the inside, but I don't have your confidence.
Now, you just have to focus on what's best for you. While our sitches are different, in that decisions were made for me (or perhaps, in spite of me), you have the ball firmly in your court moving forward.
I think it shows a great deal of maturity in your dealing with the situation when you explained to Vanilla a few comments back how you were not worried about leaving your daughters in your wife's care.
All of this sounds so pompous and like I think I'm a vet, which I SO am not and there are LOTS of those here who give great advice, but what it all boils down to is that you have made a change and it looks like a positive one, at least from my perspective and I'm so happy for you. I'm rooting and praying for you!
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids