This is a fairly big development indeed and I like how you take it, from the perspective of the children's welfare. And you're right that it will come to light in due time. I think you said you're not so keen on R with W anymore, so I guess it helps to keep the focus on you.
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Originally Posted By: SunnyB
I live in a city but in some ways my neighborhood is very small town. I'm always on the lookout for STBX, I'd rather poke my eye out with a spoon than accidentally run into him. But I guess it will happen eventually
I hope this move makes it easier on you and the girls instead of harder, Raliced. Take care.
It's true that I don't harbor any illusions about reconciling. I've never entirely ruled it out, either. But it seems like something that could only occur after years have gone by. I've never really had a grasp on what's going on with him but whatever it is - it seems pretty deep and profound.
And in the meantime - I'm pretty content to focus on me - and my plate is pretty full with primary custody, getting a graduate degree, trying to launch a small business, and after Dad's death- caring more frequently for my elderly mother.
All that being said- I would like it very much if OW went away - I could deal with another girlfriend much more easily. The idea of having this woman who encouraged and helped expedite the break up of my family being shoehorned into my life is distasteful. AS the father of my children - I'm stuck with STBX forever - but hopefully not with her.
So- I'm happy for the kids - but not sure what it might mean in terms of OW. I guess I will find out soon enough if she is staying with him(which really seems unlikely given that she has her own house) or if it is some other arrangement. I shudder that she might show up at my daughter's soccer games this fall. I can't imagine he would give me any kind of heads up. And heaven knows I don't want to bump carts with them at the grocery store. Hopefully, as Mozza says, if it does occur, it will be infrequent. Really- the whole living situation seems pretty mysterious, but it seems like living apart (even part time) would add some stressors to their relationship.
I confess I also had some anxiety that he might try to alter our custody agreement based on his new living arrangement. I'd be fine with a few more nights a week - but I'm pretty happy with our current arrangement
Originally Posted By: Mozza
Funny you say you're in charge of process improvements. In my last job, I created something called the "kaizen platform". I let you guess what it was about...
Yeah- you're in my wheelhouse, Mozza. I'm a Six Sigma Black Belt (I was right in the middle of the training when STBX bombed me last year and I just barely completed it)
