and now I have the divorce packet to begin filling out.
714, do you have your own family law attorney, or just that mediator you two met with?
You really need to better understand your rights here, IMHO. What is the definition of a "long-term marriage" in your state, as it relates to spousal support? If you've been the stay-at-home-father, you may be entitled to spousal support (alimony) from your wife.