Help and support appreciated

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Thanks for the reply Starsky.

I have to pay for both our attorneys, not happy about it.

I wasnt discussing legal moves with her.

I told her about being able to get the loan because I have always included her in our financial decisions, until i screwed up and cut her off when she moved out, and then she filed for divorce.

Trying to get her to trust me about money again, and the only way i feel is to let her know what is happening, and have her be involved, because it is still our money as long as we are married.

Am i being dense on this?

Do you see anything else I am doing blatantly wrong?