Bad idea on the note, but then again you knew that. Why do you suppose you did that, KNOWING that it was pursuit? Are you still operating on your emotions?
Not picking on you, I just see a lot of myself in you, 714. I too am a romantic, and a wordsmith, and I always felt that if I could say (or write) JUST the right things, my wayward wife would come back to me.
It only pushed her further away.
What she responded to instead was STRENGTH. Not being a jerk or a d*ck, but my strong resolve in fighting for our marriage, and drawing firm boundaries with her. The whole "supplication" thing is NOT attractive to her, I can assure you (in fact, it's probably a big turn-off). If you doubt this, ask the women on here (Sandi, Train, others).
I too would caution you to keep your eyes wide open for a possible affair. She is displaying several of the warning signs, and it's rare for a woman to leave the security of her marriage without either an OM already on the hook, or at least already be in pursuit of someone specific. My wife was THE last woman in the world you would have EVER thought would do what she did, but she did. And this forum is littered with similar stories.
