Give yourself a break. Your W knows how you feel. Don't stress about hat. Drop that rope Z. Don't slip back to the way you were. Refocus.

I would be interested in hearing what the vets think of your situation. But maybe it is not my place to ask. There does seem to be genuine improvements and even initiatives taken by W but still with underlying not fully committed. Can things improve bit by bit until everything clicks into place including obvious commitment? I ask this as much for me as for Z.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together