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I think more just slowing down. Continuing to journal. Going to IC. Reflecting. Reading other people's threads. Watching or listening to inspirational videos.

All of it should be centered upon emotional and financial independence.

I read that the #1 reason businesses fail is because they don't like marketing. They look at branding, advertising, driving customer traffic as a necessary evil. So the guy that opens a repair shop just wants to do repairs, not necessarily become a marketing expert. But what this article said is that when you go into business for yourself, your business isn't what you think it is (the service you offer), it is MARKETING. You better want to get a PHD in marketing. You better LOVE it. If you look at it as a necessary evil you won't ever grow a big enough customer base to succeed just because you do good work. You must want to spend your life learning the nuances of marketing.

So too with DB. You need to become truly inspired to climb the mountain of emotional independence. You're not ready to climb the mountain. You need to train at the gym, practice climbing techniques, build muscles, read about how others have done it. But it should be an obsession. All day. How would an emotionally mature independent woman handle this? What tools would they use to cope with this adversity? How might they look at this differently? Etc.

You will have to change the way you see yourself and strengthen yourself before you should take any action. That could take a few weeks or a few months. But it isn't time wasted. Just because your external sitch isn't changing doesn't mean you're not progressing. Remember my favorite line:

You don't succeed when you arrive at your goals. You succeed the moment you commit to doing whatever it takes to get there, because that's a commitment only successful people ever make.