My sense is he is trying to re-build. The question is, is he going to try to talk about the R or is he is going to try to move forward w/o doing so. He has indicated that soon we need to talk about the R. But those are words.
As for transparency, if he does not bring up R and is avoiding it, when do I bring it up?
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced