HI Painter! Thanks for stopping by I can use all the help I can get! Yes it has been a very long and complicated history. The only thing we both agree on is we can not continue doing things the way we have been which in his opinion means we are done for good and in my opinion means we need to work on making changes. so as you can see we do not agree and he is still in A relationship with OW that started as an afair! What keeps bringing us back to each other? I wish I had a specific answer. For me it has always been that I loved him even during the two year period we did not talk. I hope it is the same for him as when I first found out about A he mentioned he could not imagine his life like this and he never imagined not being with me. Now it is ok when we are not fighting and when we are it is he hates me cant stand to me and wants me to leave. The ONLY time i hear that is when we are fighting. So I will answer with we truly love each other but we have never actually solved issues we just jump in where we left off! I go to IC every other week I have asked him to sit in but he refuses. I asked to go to MC he refuses. All he cares about right now is making his relationship with OW work. He refused to take a day off two years ago to go on his daughters kindergarten field trip but he is taking Thursday off to go watch OW kids show at fair. Last weekend he stayed at a friends house to stay with OW because they can not stay at our house and she is still living with her husband (whom filed for divorce) I am not sure if he is still under the "fog"because it has been a year they have been "seeing eachother dating whatever you want to call it. They said ILY after the first month and as i am sure you read we still ML occasionally and live together and all that good stuff so Idk what is going on there. I am not sure how to exactly explain the kids. I have one of my own He has two from different relationships. The biological father of my daughter is not around but my ex stepped up and is her DAD. The mothers of his two children are actively involved in their lives but when they are here we parent together. No child is treated different there is no my child your child. In our eyes they are all 3 both of our kids when they are here. I have been around the youngest since the day she was born. I was at the hospital that night. The middle one I have been around since she was 2. So essentially I have been here helping raise them most of their lives. I do 90% of the communication with the other mothers (my control issue) I do field trips school supplies clothes shopping, bday party planning, school registration, all the things he would normally need to do. they both attend school in our district so we take care of the majority but due to my control I take care of it all. If you were a fly on the wall I am the main parent. I am with them the most as my days off are days I pick up and drop off his youngest it has always been that way. My job is more flexible than his so I can have a schedule like that. So in short yes I am a caretaker for all of them. I Hope that helps explain a little better! If not keep asking I have no fear of sharing as much as I can to get as much help as I can!
